The Kinky Sex
If there is anything that is so erotic to so many and annoying to some at the same time, it is definitely talking dirty. Talking dirty for many is like walking on a ground full of nails. There are those who feel totally ashamed even at the mere thought of it and that happens because they do not even know how to go about it. So when they are with their lover who wants to hear the dirty talk, they suddenly grow cold feet and lose all sensation. This is an experience that so many people have felt.
At that moment, they have a million things going on in their minds. They are wondering what they should talk about, how they should say it, how it is going to come out or even if it is going to trigger a very negative reaction from the partner. All these thoughts race through the mind of the disturbed lover who feels like spitting out all the dirty talk in the world but does not know how to go about it. In this guide, you are going to be instructed on every aspect of talking dirty.
More on Talking Dirty
Many may not be aware of this but talking dirty is actually one of the most important but regularly underrated components of eroticism. Talking dirty fires up the thoughts in your mind intensifies sexual stimulations and brings out the rawest of all human sexualities. Often compared to sexual activity, talking dirty has to be gauged depending on the recipient. What this means is that what one person will see as very dirty talk is what another person will see as harmless talk. In other words, there is no universal language for dirty talk. And that exactly is why it is important that there should be a guide for talking dirty and here is it.
In this guide, you are going to know what to say, what to never say and what will make you the undisputed master of talking dirty. By the way, it has to be pointed out at this point that there is nothing dirty about making love or even holding a discussion about sex itself. That is why some people do not refer to it as dirty talk but as erotic language. The latter actually does a better job with the description of the concept and the meaning that it really conveys.
Tips on Getting Talking Dirty Right
Now, we will redirect our focus to the most useful tips and hints that form the body of this guideline on talking dirty. By the time you are done with this session, you will be more than confident to start your talking dirty almost immediately. Here we go:
Talk about Your Needs before Sex, Spill Out Your Heart While Having Sex
One of the most important tips that you will come across when it comes to the discussion of talking dirty. This is one tip that you will find very relevant especially if you are a lady. Men and women are not the same as far as sex is concerned. While males tend to zoom in on just one thing, the ladies have a lot in their line of vision and thought as far as sex is concerned. So, as a man, before you can dominate the lady, you have to overcome her senses with your stimulation with a more powerful effort. Once you do that, she gets wet for you and she will be lost passionately in your arms.
A good illustration of this is a scenario where the lady has high libido but you cannot even predict when she wants you to make love to her. On her side, she really wants you to bang her silly but she does not even know how to pass the vital message across. At that point, the only way forward is to employ talking dirty.
It is the ability to navigate this delicate ground that makes you a master worthy of emulation. Instead of just going physical without getting the desired results, take the path of talking dirty. In fact, some people are so good at it that they can make the lady to even achieve orgasm with just the power of the dirtiest of words and without any form of physical touch. If you have not reached that stage, you have nothing to worry about. All you need to do is to practice and with time, you are going to become a legend too.
But again, because this is about words, you cannot predict what will come out of your mouth sometimes. In most cases, you are going to verbalize things totally depending on your mood. But whatever it is, always express yourself.
Be Clear
If you have come across people who really love dirty talk, they are going to tell you that what really gets them going gaga are the very clear words that are being used. Talking dirty does not mean you have to use cryptic or coded words. You can perfectly talk dirty using regular and everyday words in your language. If you feel like being inside her, tell her without coating it. If you feel she looks hot and smashing and you want a quickie right inside the elevator, let her know.
The success of talking dirty lies in you being very clear with the way you convey your thoughts. You have to communicate in a way that the other side does not find any of your messages ambiguous at all. Be very expressive and communicative; remember to say it is exactly the way you feel. You should employ no filter at all whenever you are talking dirty. Trying to be civil or formal is going to totally defeat the main purpose of talking dirty.
Try and add a twist of poetry to your words. For instance, instead of just telling her that she is beautiful, let her know she looks like a goddess who is just emerging from the waters of the ocean. Instead of just telling her that she is gorgeous, let her know that the massive nipples on her chest are what drive you mad as they bounce with every step that she takes.
One other aspect of talking dirty is that it is not ordinary in the sense that its very essence is to convey very erotic messages. Let him know that you like the way he curves his lips with ecstasy whenever you give him a blow job instead of just saying he looks good. With talking dirty, there is no limit at all, the only thing that can limit you is your own imagination.
Engage All The Sensory Organs
If you are intent on getting the very best out of all the dirty talk you are trying to convey to your partner, then you need to make the fullest use of all your senses. This is because for most people, taking dirty is just about the eyes and touch which is why the focus on appearance and touch. However, the reality is very much more than this.
Even though there is really nothing wrong with you making use of what you are quite comfortable with, there is a lot more for you to gain by making full use of all the senses. Since talking dirty is a function of your imagination, there is clearly no limit to this. Imagine everything possible and conjure them into existence. The most beautiful thing with talking dirty is that there is no thought that is actually dirty in the real sense of it.
The point here, in essence, is that in your talking dirty, you need to involve other senses too. For example, you can let your partner know that she tastes really good when you eat up her pussy or you can let your man know that you absolutely love the sounds that he makes whenever he is about to achieve orgasm. You can let her know you love how her clitoris grips your penis whenever she is achieving orgasms. All these thoughts and expressions bring a totally different dimension to the experience of sex itself.
Moderation is Key, Consider Your Partner
Well, even though it was said earlier that in talking dirty, there is virtually no limit to what you can think and say. That is true but you know, for every rule, there is an exception. And the same thing applies here. If you have a partner who is not impressed with vulgarities and profanities, then you may need to tone it down. The thing is that there are those who are really in love with all the dirty talk in the world and there are those who are just not freaked by it.
For example, there are ladies who love to be called ‘bitch’ by their lovers especially during the heat of passion but there are also some other ladies who are ready to break the relationship right there and then just because of that same word.
So, if you happen to have a partner who is not really into a lot of talking dirty, then you may need to reassess your strategy. The beauty of talking dirty is that it is very flexible and you can always adjust your language to what your lover will not only be very comfortable with but will also find to be a huge turn on. Like every other technique out there, you just need to take your time to practice until you reach the level of perfection. Do not ruin a perfect relationship because of ego or pride.
Be Creative and Liberal
Talking dirty actually hinges its success on how creative you can be. With talking dirty, you cannot afford to let fear rule you. You have to develop that courage that comes with you being able to express yourself and voice out your innermost thoughts. If you are one of those who are totally caged by conservative family, social, traditional or tribal values, then you will never be successful with talking dirty. Getting results with talking dirty can only happen with a human being who is creative and liberal. This can only happen with a mind that is not repressed in any way.
If you are held back one way or the other, the first thing you should do is to make that attempt to first free yourself of anything limiting you psychologically before you can start your practice with talking dirty. Do not worry about being judged by others, just be free with yourself and express yourself to the best of your ability when talking dirty. That is the first step you can take if you are those who are scared of coming across as being vulgar.
Start Gradually
It is understandable that some are very scared stiff of dabbling into the world of talking dirty but that does not mean that the case is hopeless. If you are one of those in this category, you should know that there is a step you can take. You can start gradually and one of the best ways to do this is to commence your own dirty talk via text, email, SMS or other forms. By the time you are able to master how to write the dirty language, graduating to the level of verbalizing it is going to be a lot easier for you.
Know It Takes Time
One other tip you need to put in mind is that just like life itself, getting good at talking dirty is always a work in progress. You may be an amateur today in the world of talking dirty but that is totally not a problem. Even the best of dirty talkers today were once beginners. Knowing that it is going to take your time to learn this skill is a very reassuring thing. It will allow you to develop that confidence that you need badly as you graduate into becoming the baddest talker in the bedroom!
