The male g-spot, centered around the prostate, is often quite a tricky zone to find during the course of sex or masturbation. This is where the prostate massager comes in.
Understandably, for first-timers, some prostate massagers may resemble alien probes. Thankfully, while they may look intimidating, they are not all that hard to learn with a little time and practice!
Step by Step
Initially, whether first-timers or not, all users should make sure that they clean their massager thoroughly as its use is always concerning the rectal cavity. This applies both to before and after use. Generally speaking, washing is best done with warm water and soap in the most convenient household sink.
For positioning, it is a good idea for the user to lie on their side or back while bending the knees close to the stomach or raising your legs, whichever your preference. Both positions make it the easiest angle with which to guide your massager with accuracy and dexterity. To this end, lube is strongly recommended as it can remove the pain factor and boost enjoyment and ease!
One should carefully and slowly insert their massager when beginning use. Depending on the design, some massagers can also work on the exterior and adjacent areas. This opens up additional options for pleasure in simultaneous locations. Some users do feel the slight sensation that they need to urinate. This is a perfectly normal sensation during prostate massager use due to the pelvic muscle groups involved.
Upwards of 10 to 20 minutes are recommended for maximum relaxation when using your massager. Slow inhales and exhalations while focusing on the concentrated sensations against your prostate can bolster the effect.
Now fully relaxed, you will then be able to effectively use your prostate massager to its best potential! Prostate massagers can be used for kegel exercises, or they can otherwise be adjusted carefully for direct sexual pleasure. Exercises should be done with timed and controlled breathing to get the most benefit from the repetitions.
Try repeating your exercise for upwards of a half an hour, as desired. Never continue for overly extended periods of time where fatigue and discomfort can begin to set in. While experimenting, for example with up and down motions and applying pressure, lube is key.
Indeed, similar to butt plugs and other anally-used equipment, lubrication is far from optional. The massager must remain slippery from lube for both comfort and safety assurances. The rectal cavity is not capable of producing its own lubricant as the vaginal passage can.
At the end of your usage, you should find that your resulting orgasm is much more powerful. Another common effect of exercising or masturbating with your massager is a characteristically stronger ejaculation action. Practice makes perfect and with a prostate massager, the only place to go is up: where the pleasure awaits!
When to Use Different Kinds
Prostate massagers are mostly ideal for solo usage. They primarily serve as a great replacement for those who prefer to not use their index finger. It is easy to tell why some people may not be keen on using their fingers; fortunately, massagers exist!
First-timers may feel the most at home with small, simply-built massagers. These can do what they do without overengineering and with still considerable intensity and versatility. Before that, however, one should consider experimenting without vibration. A non-vibrating prostate or anal toy can be used in lieu of your finger. With a non-vibrator, you can more easily get accustomed to the raw sensation as well as help you locate your spot.
If you take the dive immediately into vibration motor prostate massagers, there is a risk that it may make your entire sensation dependant upon them for most massages. Anything like this that can hamper versatility and diversity of enjoyment should indeed be avoided!
A gentle buildup to more powerful massagers with differing modes assures a more dynamic range of sensations you will experience. As alluded to before, there is another important factor beyond regular usage and knowing which to use …
Locating the Prostate and Insertion
Knowing the location of the prostate within your anal passageway is absolutely paramount. Before beginning, it is a great idea to take a shower, answer any calls of nature you might have within the window of time you will be experimenting with, and washing your hands.
From there, begin by simply applying lubricant to your finger for an exploratory probing to locate it for yourself. It is usually approximately 3 inches into your cavity so no further insertion than that should be needed.
When you begin regular use, lubrication is key and critical every step of the way. Liberal amounts of lubricant on your massager allow it to be easily and more safely inserted. It is highly important to make sure your lube of choice is compatible with your massager. This prevents damage or extra risks. To be absolutely sure if you ever have doubts, it is never a bad idea to consult your massager’s documentation and packaging!
The next 2 steps address the important matters of positioning and insertion. It is a great idea to get into a comfortable position, like with your knees kept perpendicular to the hips. Experimenting with various positions is not a bad idea at all, as different configurations work for different people both in exercise and for raw pleasure.
When it comes to insertion, beginners need to manually adjust their massager more often than not to properly milk their prostate. Meanwhile, experienced users are able to operate it without hands by clenching the local muscles. This latter technique can be refined through practice and made easier by regular kegel exercises!
Massaging with Skill
Once you have overcome the slight learning curve and skill gap associated with first-time users of prostate massagers, more powerful orgasms are quite close at hand. With some basic research and careful practice, you will be able to reliably stimulate the area with gusto. It is also a good idea, if desired, to practice with a partner. An extra pair of eyes and extra helping hands can go a long way towards making the most of your prostate-based pleasure.
