The Kinky Sex
When it comes to spicing up your sex life, one of the things that you might want to consider doing would be to try having anal sex. Anal sex can be incredibly daunting when it comes to having anal for the first time, thouhg, and so knowing how to have anal sex is essential if you are to have an exciting and enjoyable session!
So, do you know how to have anal sex? What considerations should be made when learning about how to have anal sex so as to ensure that the session goes to plan?
Considerations
Before even thinking about having anal sex for the first time, it is important that you undersand that the anus is far more delicate and fragile than other areas of a person’s body. Indeed, the walls of the anus in particular are especially prone to getting ripped; in the event that you or your partner gets ripped internally, there could be potentially devastating consequences (and, failing that, you will be having a very sensitive conversation with your doctor about the matter anyway).
So, what should you ensure before starting your anal sex journey?
When it comes to receiving or giving anal sex, lubrication is the key. Safe anal play can be exciting and exhilirating and can give a couple a whole new way to enjoy their time together—but it can be riskier. Lube should always be used as a result when it comes to anal sex and, in the event of fingering or using some sort of sex toy, it is also vital that you check to ensure that there are no rough or sharp edges that could tear your or your partner’s delicate internal walls.
Why People Like Anal?
There are many different reasons why people want to have anal sex. For one, there is the fact that anal sex is something of a “taboo” subject; it just isn’t the normal thing, although more and more couples are actively engaging in the act. This can make the entire act of having anal sex even more of a turn on, and that’s not to mention the better pleasure and orgasms! On top of that, of course, there is also the fact that having anal sex is almost 100% impossible for a partner to get pregnant from, making it a safe option for people who aren’t quite ready to start—or otherwise grow—a family.
Of course, as with anything, anal sex isn’t for everyone! So, if you aren’t comfortable with having anal sex with your partner, don’t do it! Alternatively, if you want to try anal out but are scared about doing so, why not start your explorations with an anal sex toy instead of the real deal?
Once you have understood this factor, anal play should be easy! But how do people actually have anal sex anyway?
How to Have Anal Sex
Having anal sex might come with slightly higher risks than having normal vaginal or oral sex, but it can also open up a whole new world of pleasure for both parties. Indeed, anal sex is often said to be far more pleasurable than standard sex, and the orgasms that can result from anal are also often far more powerful—if a little hard to achieve when you are first starting out in the anal sex world.
To start with, it is vital that you and your partner both plan for your anal sex session in advance; invariably, we are dealing with a region of the body that is usually used for the excretion of waste matter, so you will definitely want to clean up in advance down there!
In addition to this, it is important that you both understand the risks of anal sex, and your partner must be willing to listen to you if you don’t want to carry on with anal sex. After all, when done wrong, anal sex can be uncomfortable or even outright painful; you don’t want that, after all, and the basis of a good relationship needs to be founded on communication and trust with one another. If you aren’t happy, STOP.
Next, you’ll want to think about the type of lube you will be using; seriously, you cannot even think about trying anal sex without having the right lube. While most types of lube will work OK, the best is usually silicone thanks to the fact that it lasts for a long time or, if you aren’t using a condom, oil based could also be a good option as well.
The key to fun and pleasurable anal sex is to take things slowly. Start off by gently fingering your or your partner’s anus in order to relax the muscles of the sphincter, which are usually incredibly strong and tight; failing to “warm up” these muscles will invariably cause your partner a great deal of stress. Take things slowly while fingering, too, so as to allow the muscles to adjust to this new presence.
Furthering on from this, you will then want to make sure that you are in control when having anal sex with your partner. The easiest way of achieving this is to have your partner positioned beneath you, so that you are in control of his thrusts; if done too roughly, these will cause pain, so being able to control his thrusts yourself is a great way of ensuring that you are both getting pleasure from the session.
During the session, in order to get the best possible level of pleasure and satisfaction, you may want to consider stimulating not only your anus, but also your clit. Due to the position of your partner in almost any form of anal sex, you will probably find that your clit will be a little lonely and abandoned; give it the attention that it needs as well to truly arouse you! Rubbing yourself or getting your partner to do so for you will help, or you could otherwise invest in a vibrator or something of the like to help you make the entire process easier and more satisfying.
Remember, anal sex can be risky—but it really doesn’t need to be!
