The Kinky Sex
If there is any phenomenon that has managed to grab the attention of all of humanity from the beginning of time to date and very well till the end of time, it is sex. In fact, sex is so influential in human societies that today, it is often said in the business and advertising world: sex sells. Sex comes in different forms and of these forms we are going to be focusing on blow jobs in this piece. By the time you are done with this piece, you will be a mobile encyclopedia on blow jobs.
What is a Blow Job?
Well, for those who are late to the party, a blow job is actually a slang term used to describe a type of oral sex. Also called sucking off, fellatio, giving head, or just BJ, a blow job is a form of oral sex in which the mouth alongside the teeth, lips, and tongue or even the throat in most cases, are used for the sexual stimulation and arousal of the male genitals of a sexual partner.
In some other contexts, the oral stimulation of the skin around the penis (better known as scrotum) can be referred to as a blow job too or in street lingua, teabagging. If the blow job is performed on the man by himself, as seen in some very flexible people, then it is referred to as autofellatio.
Although the focus of a blow job is the man receiving all the oral stimulation, the sexual arousal is often for both parties and the two lovers can reach climax even though it is one person who is being ‘sucked’. In many instances, a blow job is actually taken as a part of foreplay before the act of vaginal or anal penetration. However, that is not to say that a blow job cannot qualify as a sexual act all by itself.
History of Blow Jobs
Like other forms of sexual activity in human societies, blow jobs have been with us from the earliest times. However, as you might have imagined, different societies looked upon blow jobs with differing opinions. Even though it is accepted warmly and even encouraged in many societies all over the globe, there are some other societies that adopt a very hostile view regarding blow jobs.
They often base this stance on religious and/or cultural justifications. For example, some religious sects consider blow jobs forbidden because as far as they are concerned, it is an act of sexual performance that does not lead to procreation.
As it is with other forms of sexual activities, the term fellatio in English was actually derived from the Latin verb ‘fellatus’ which describes the process of sucking. However, today, it is better referred to as blow jobs and not fellatio which is now seen as a more academic description of the act.
As far back as the time, the legendary Kama Sutra was written in ancient India, blow jobs were already widespread. This is well documented in not just the Kama Sutra but in other ancient records too. From ancient records in Papua New Guinea to the ones from China, all pointed to the same thing: blow jobs have always been with us.
How Are Blow Jobs Done?
Very pleasant for both partners, blow jobs often result in you and your lover achieving orgasm and releasing semen during the process. In many cases, blow jobs are given as a way of foreplay to sexually stimulate the other side before there is any penetration via the anus or vagina or any other form of sexual activity that they so decide upon. As stated earlier, a blow job can stand on its own as a sexual activity.
So, how precisely is a blow job done? Well, the most important part of a blow job is the stage where the recipient has the penis inside the mouth. But that is not all, that is just the starting point. Once the penis is secure in the mouth, the next thing that is to be done is to move the mouth, lips or tongue all over the penis. This is done in a way that seeks to replicate the usual thrusting movements in a typical vaginal or anal intercourse.
The only difference here is that instead of the vagina or the anus, the mouth opening will serve as the channel of the thrusting. Saliva and other secretions from the mouth serve as the lubricant in this case. The person giving the blow job has to be cautious so that he or she does not end up biting the penis or hurting the genitals in any way with the teeth.
As for the male recipient of the blow job, he also has a role to play and should not just lie down passively and do nothing. The male recipient also has a role to play. He can determine the rhythm and depth of the blow job by grabbing the head of the giver and adjusting all the moves. Another thing that can be done is for the penis to not just be sucked but also licked and kissed. Different moves can be made using the lips, tongue, and throat.
The scrotum must also not be left out of the action. In fact, a session of blow job cannot be said to be complete without the inclusion of the scrotum. The scrotum should also be sucked, licked, kissed and titillated with the tongue all over. When all these are going on, it is common to see the man get so aroused that he ends up ejaculating and releasing the semen into the mouth of the giver and this can also spill onto their face in the process. When the ejaculation onto the face of the giver, it is referred to as a facial and it is actually quite common as a sexual act. For some men, nothing gives them greater joy than engaging in a facial while for some other men, their joy is maximized when the lady sucks up all of their ejaculated semen.
Another aspect of blow job that should be mentioned here is when the giver takes up all the entire length of the penis and sucks it all up into her throat then gives it a proper sucking. This leads to very intense sensations of pleasure in the man and it is known as deep throating. In deep throating, the recipient is often the one in control. He can move the entire penile tissue as he wants and he can also hold on to the head of the giver and control the depth of the penetration into the throat of the giver. It is important to state that the sensation that a man gets when having a blow job is totally different from the one he gets when engaging in vaginal or anal intercourse.
As interesting as this is, it should be stated here that actually not everyone can give a blow job. This is due to the gag reflex which makes them unable to control the contractions at the back of the throat. The best people who give blow jobs and go all the way with deep throating are those who have been able to master and control the gag reflex.
Tips on How to Get Blow Jobs Right
Although blow jobs sound pretty easy and straightforward, you also need to do them right so as to achieve the goals of pleasure for yourself and the partner. Here are some tips that can help:
Balls
Well, the testicles are often involved in blow jobs. However, do not assume that the same thing works out for your man. Because testicles are some of the most sensitive parts of a man’s body, not all men are comfortable with you involving their balls, they just cannot cope with the heightened sensation. For these men, they are often okay with you just handling the penis alone. So, you should ask before you go playing with those balls.
Communicate
Either you are the giver or the recipient, it is important that you maintain communication at every stage of a blow job. In doing so, you are able to focus and know when everything is going on right and also when to stop or change course.
Forepla
Although a blow job is in itself considered to be a type of foreplay, that does not stop you from actually engaging in foreplay before you start the blow job. Touch the man’s nipples, kiss him behind the neck, fondle his breasts and set his body in the mood. Let him be in suspense as he anticipates the moment you put all of his penile glory inside your gaping throat.
Safety Issues
As it is with other forms of sexual activities, blow jobs too also have their own inherent risks. It is very possible for one to contract several sexually-transmitted diseases and infections. But it must be quickly pointed out that the risk of contracting an STD via a blow job is remarkably lower than in the case of vaginal and anal penetration. This is particularly true in viral infections like that of the human immunodeficiency virus.
That said, several other diseases like gonorrhea, hepatitis, herpes, chlamydia can be spread via oral sex. In fact, the risk is heightened if it happens that the recipient has cuts or injuries on his private parts. The same thing happens if the giver of the blow job has sores and all kinds of cuts or wounds in his or her mouth. Even the slightest cut or opening in the oral mucosa can remarkably increase the risk of coming down with one infection or the other. In a case where you are not sure about safety of the whole thing, it is advisable to make use of barrier methods such as condoms. It is always better to be safe than sorry at the end of it all.
Benefits of Blow Jobs
- Apart from the apparent benefit of pleasure for both partners, another advantage of blow jobs is that they can assist in stabilizing a marriage or a relationship. For example, when a lady is pregnant and it becomes either uncomfortable to have regular vaginal sex with her, she and her partner can opt for blow jobs. Another instance is where a lady is not ready to lose her virginity but also wants to meet the sexual demands of her partner, both can reach a middle ground and go for blow jobs – the man is happy and the lady has her virginity intact.
- Blow jobs are very good when a couple is interested in having some sexual pleasure but do not want the problem of pregnancy. This is very possible because even when a lady swallows all the ejaculated sperm from the man, there is absolutely no way she is going to get pregnant that way. This is because the digestive tract is totally different from the female reproductive system where the womb and other organs needed to sustain a pregnancy are. That aside, semen is mainly protein and is broken down by several enzymes in the digestive system. So, there is even no way for the sperms to survive swallowing in the first place.
- Blow jobs are the best when a man wants a quickie or something very casual but intense too. Blow jobs are so good that couples can even do it in a matter of minutes while inside a lift. All the man has to do is to fly his zippers and in a minute or two, he is done. Blow jobs can be done pretty much anywhere as there is no need for any elaborate preparation. The lady too does not need to remove her dress or anything.
It is the apparent ease with which blow jobs can be done that made some countries to have laws against having blow jobs in public spaces – but that has not some people from giving blow jobs to their partners even while driving.
