The Kinky Sex
It is often said in today’s world that sex sells. That is true but even truer is the fact that sex has always been selling since the beginning of time. Humans have managed to come up with countless sex styles, methods, and techniques. In this piece, we are going to talk in detail about one of these – and these are hand jobs.
What is a Hand Job?
Yes, following that introduction, the next question that will pop up is this: what is a hand job? A hand job can be defined as a type of sexual activity in which their hands are used to provide manual stimulation for the male genitals of the partner. A hand job can be done as part of foreplay or it can stand alone on its own as a sexual act. The essence of doing a hand job is to stimulate penile erection for the sake of sexual pleasure, arousal or even for allowing the man to achieve orgasm and ejaculate in the process.
Even though the hand job is mainly the stimulation of the sex organs of the male, it can also be a source of sexual arousal for all those involved in it. Also, couples can engage in hand job as a form of sex that does not involve penetration. This is very important for those who wish to preserve their virginity but still enjoy the thrills and pleasure of sexual acts.
Hand jobs also come with their own advantages and benefits. For example, it is a good way to avoid sexually-transmitted infections and diseases that are often common with other forms of sexual activity. Another main advantage with a hand job as sexual activity is that the lady does not have to worry about getting pregnant.
The way hand jobs are done differ depending on whether the man has been circumcised or not. For those who have undergone circumcision, it is important that lubricants be used during the hand job. For people who are not circumcised, the process of hand job involves the movement of the foreskin against the sheath of the penis in a back and forth manner.
Applications of Hand Jobs
Hand jobs have found some really interesting applications. For those who are quite familiar with massage parlors, they must have heard of what they call sessions with ‘happy endings’. Well, these so-called happy endings actually have to do with hand jobs.
In this type, there is a massage that is then followed by the performance of hand jobs on male customers. Even though this act of erotic massage is controversial, it has not stopped some massage parlors from offering it as part of their package for their male customers.
Useful Tips for Hand Jobs
Now, it has to be stated that all hand jobs are not the same. Some people are not just good at it while some have managed to become experts with it. If you really want to please your man especially if you know that he is one of those who really love hand jobs, then you need to pay attention to the tips that can allow you give him the highest levels of satisfaction in the bedroom. You can make your hand job game to be the very best and so good that he will always crave from your magical touches. The following are tips that will be of immense assistance to you in this pursuit:
Use of Lubrication
Honestly, if you want to get the best of handjobs, you cannot do so without getting your lube into the action. While working your magic on the man’s rod, you will surely not want any type of friction. You will want everything to go on smoothly and also make sure that he enjoys the experience too. Making use of lube will not just make things very easy for you and allow you to maneuver as much as you like but it will also make it very pleasant for the man.
Talking of lubes, it is preferable that you make use of not just any kind of lubricant but the one made from silicone. The reason for this is that silicone lubes are very durable and feel really good when used on the skin. In some other cases, you may need to improvise though. But as long as it is comfortable for the partner and you, then go for it.
Bold Moves
A major part of the act of performing a hand job is actually being courageous. As the giver of the hand job, you should not be shy at all. Grab the man and tease him to no end. Stimulate him and spoil him with kisses. However, do not waste too much time with the foreplay, men appreciate it when you go straight to business as far as hand jobs are concerned. Wrap your grip around the shaft of his penis without delay. Then trigger him with his sensation by going for a few strokes.
Work with the Pressure
Pressure is fundamental to a hand job. Many ladies have no idea of how hard an erect male penis can be. So they tend to handle it as if it is a fragile object. If you do so, then you are not going to impress your male partner. What we are trying to say here is that you will have to grip the penis with enough pressure and hold it with pressure as you work your hands on the male organ. It is not going to crack so you should not be scared to grab it and let him feel it.
One way for you to gauge the level of the pressure is for you to grab his penis and gradually increase the pressure. While doing this, you can tell him to alert you whenever he is feeling the pressure is too much. This way, you will be amazed at how much pressure the human penis can endure. Remember, work with the pressure.
Variety in Position
Hand jobs will be boring, tasteless and bland if all you do is just stick to one position. For this reason, you should always remember that variety is truly the spice of life whenever it comes to giving a hand job. Let your man be in different positions as you work your magic on his rod. Let him sit, let him lie on his back, let him even assume a doggy position while you get to work with your hands.
Do Not Use One Hand
If there is anything that can be considered the cardinal rule of hand jobs, then it is the fact that you must not use one hand. You have to make use of both hands. Using both hands will give you a lot of leverage and you are also able to exert maximal pressure on your guy’s rod.
Do Not Forget The Balls
Whenever a hand job is mentioned, it is normal for most people to focus their thoughts and even actions on just the shaft of the penis. But an excellent hand job is a lot more than just the penis. You also have to ensure your hands also stimulate the testicles too.
Unknown to many ladies, one of the most pleasurable things you can do to a man is to stimulate his balls. However, you should know that the balls are much softer than the rigid penis shaft. What that means is that as you are getting the hand job done, you have to be cautious and apply very minimal pressure during the stimulation.
The first thing you can do is to take the two balls in one hand and gently apply pressure as you squeeze them. Then you can also softly pull each done one at a time or both at the same time, for maximum teasing. One tip that you can apply here is to gently, very gently, pinch the skin between the two balls and watch as he reacts and giggles with pleasure – this is a technique that works all the time and you should not be shy to go for it.
Involve The Anus
Once again, most people think a hand job is just all about the penis alone. For this reason, many never even consider the anus but the anus should be involved too. Doing this adds not just to the overall fun but increases the pleasure too.
However, you do not need to go too deep into the anus when doing a hand job. this is what you should do. Fix some lube on your finger and softly press it against his anus. Well, you will also do well to ask your man first before you attempt this technique. It is important because some men do not want their anal regions stimulated during a hand job while some others will do anything for it. Thus, you will do well to ask if it is what he will love and enjoy before you proceed.
If he gives you the approval but you notice stimulating the anus is making him become very sensitive, then you can just redirect your pressure to the perineal region. The perineum is the area of skin that covers the area from the balls to the opening of the anus. You need to apply more pressure to the perineum before he can be properly stimulated. As you are doing all these, pay attention to the reactions of your man too.
Ask Him To Teach You
Well, this can sound funny but the real legends of hand jobs are not women but the men themselves. This is because most men have been practicing hand jobs on themselves via countless masturbation sessions over the years. And as a result of the fact that he has been doing this for a long time, he knows exactly how he wants to be stimulated.
You can even add another layer to the stimulation by allowing your man to do the hand job in your presence. Of course, as he is doing it, you are also paying attention and learning from the real legend of the game. Do not be shy to ask your man to show you exactly how he wants it done.
Do Not Kill the Vibe
One of the surest ways to kill the vibe of the moment during a hand job is for you to suddenly change the technique being used on the man. This is so disappointing that some men even lose all interest at that stage.
So it is very important that you are consistent with the technique that you are making use. This is particularly true when you can see that the man is about to achieve orgasm. It is very important that you remain very focused and steady as far as the style or technique being used is concerned.
Feel Free
Well, it is just a hand job so you should not feel tensed at all about anything. Feel free, be relaxed and have a very positive mindset about it. Tell yourself that you are going to have fun with it and the same goes for your partner. Do not let yourself be paralyzed by fear or anxiety as that is going to spoil all the fun.
Techniques of Hand Jobs
There are techniques that you can make use of whenever you are down to do the most graceful of hand jobs. These are as follows:
- Form a letter O with your index finger and the thumb of one hand. Then turn the O to and fro along the length of the shaft the penis. With the second hand, form a fist then move this also to and fro the remaining part of the shaft.
- Arrange one fist over another and jerk up both to and fro in a vertical direction. This should be done with both fists and maximal pressure applied.
- Form a lock with your fingers as you move your hands at the same time.
