How To Give An Erotic Massage

Having sex can be great, but for you and your partner, giving or receiving an erotic massage can be just as much of a turn on! Mastering the erotic massage doesn’t need to be difficult but it will open up a whole new world of possibilities for partners to try in order to change up their sex life a little bit and keep things interesting.

Why Give Massages?

Sex is great, don’t get us wrong, but erotic massages are also a great option for couples looking to increase the romance in their relationship. Indeed, it has been said that the vast majority of women love the idea of an erotic massage—but often, they can be too wary to ask for one!

So, regardless of whether your partner has specifically asked you to give her an erotic massage or not, it is always a good skill to know. After all, you never know when such a skill might come into its own in the bedroom—and, after all, her pleasure is just as important as yours when it comes to having sex!

Erotic massages are great for a number of reasons, but the most important is how they will make your partner feel. When done right, erotic massages are simultaneously gentle and ever such a turn on. This makes them truly one of the best ways for a man to be able to show his female partner how much he cares for her, while also arousing her in a way that only he can.

Perhaps it is because of modern romance stories and films, or maybe there is some other reason. But, whatever the case might be, many women often want more than a rough sex session to feel satisfied; if they want that, they could just have a one night stand, or hire someone to satisfy them. Indeed, an erotic massage is one of the only things that can only be given to her by her boyfriend or partner, which is what makes them such a great way of showing her how much you care about her and her feelings.

So, treat your partner to the attention that she craves. Learn how to give her an erotic massage and see how many doors it opens up for your sex life and your relationship as a whole.

How to Give an Erotic Massage

Giving an erotic massage can be quite a daunting prospect. After all, pretty much anyone who can get aroused can have sex with their partner, if she’s in the mood as well—but an erotic massage is less of an instinctual behaviour and more of an aquired skill.

It is an art form, one might say, just as a standard massage would be. And the intention should not be to leave your partner spent, as a standard sex session would be, but instead, you want to leave her feeling happy and calm—and, ideally, craving more as well.

When giving an erotic massage, the first thing to consider is the atmosphere. Erotic massages should be sensual and welcoming, and will leave the recipient feeling calm and serene. As such, the right ambience in the room is essential. It doesn’t matter which room you choose as the setting for your erotic massage to be given in, so long as you get it right; plan things ahead and make sure that her surroundings will help to put her at ease, just as if she was in the hands of a professional masseuse.

If possible, you should first start by getting the temperature right. The temperature in the room should be warm—perhaps just a little too warm for clothes, but the ideal comfortable temperature without. One way of achieving this, if you have a thermostat, would be to check what setting she naturally puts it on; then turn it up a degree or two to get the perfect temperature, which will make her feel comfortable when it comes to getting down to basics.

The next thing that you should focus on is the lighting in the room. Harsh, bright lighting is never appealing; light some candles, if you can, or at least try to dim the lights slightly in order to take that harsh edge off.

During the actual massage, make sure that you use plenty of massage lotion. This will allow your hands to glide smoothly and sensually over your partner’s skin, further adding to her arousal.

Always use long strokes when running your hands over your partner’s body, and do so with flat palms. Make sure that you have warmed the oil between your palms before applying for a touch that is gentle and pleasing.

Once you have begun the process by running your palms in long and exaggerated strokes along the contours of your partner’s body, try to include your thumbs in the massage. A gentle pressure from your thumb will send shudders down her spine and create a rolling sensation that will help to ease her muscles.

Trace your touch down the entirety of her body. Start from the least sensual spots, and slowly progress lower and lower so that you massage her breasts and her legs, eventually targeting the inner thighs too. Always do so gently and slowly; with the best erotic massages, the goal is to arouse her, but not leave her tired out.

Erotic massages take time to learn, and it is likely that the first one that you give won’t be perfect. However, just remember to always use plenty of warm massage oil, and shower her in praises and delicate touches all the while. Gently dot kisses around her sensitive areas as you go; her neck and collarbones are excellent places to focus your attention. And, when you do this, she is sure to appreciate your efforts—no matter whether it goes well, or not so well.