The Kinky Sex
When it comes to sex, there is clearly no end to what can be discussed. There are countless styles and techniques that human beings have come up with just to maximize the pleasure derived from the sexual experience. Talking of the variety that exists in how humans go about sex, there is the concept of BDSM toys. And this is what will lead us to the next section.
What Are BDSM Toys?
There is no way BDSM toys can be discussed without talking about what BDSM itself being examined and explained. So, in a nutshell, BDSM is an array of sexual practices or roleplay that involves bondage (B), discipline (D), dominance and submission (D&s) and sadism and masochism (SM) and other things that are related to all these. BDSM itself is believed to be used for the first time in 1991 but over time the definition has expanded to cover some other forms of relationships and sexual subcultures. In fact, as it is today, body modifications, cross-dressing, rubber fetishism, and bestial roleplaying and so on are also considered to be subsets of the BDSM niche.
For the sake of those who have misconceptions with BDSM, it is important to clarify that the sexual activities in this niche are not forced in any way. They are only carried out with consent from all the participants in the act. For example, when one of the partners is described as being submissive and the other is called dominant, these are roles that are assumed based on the agreement reached by both sides. That said, we can now discuss the BDSM toys.
Types of BDSM Toys
If you are one of those who are interested in the kinky and crazier sides of sex, BDSM toys will surely be of interest to you. BDSM practices are actually a lot of fun for those who have the passion and courage to get involved with them. The following are the types of BDSM toys that will be discussed in this guide:
Cuffs & Straps
Even those who are not involved with BDSM practices know one or two things about the cuffs and straps. These bondage pieces are fundamental for amateurs who are just starting out in this niche. Like gags, cuffs and straps are very good when it is time to get someone tied up.
Shibari Rope
As you might have noticed with the name, the Shibari rope has its origins from the old empires of Japan. Initially utilized to subdue slaves, this is now an integral of the BDSM niche. But the Shibari rope is not just for the restraining of the subjects, it is also considered as a form of art with different patterns and styles of its variants available. The positioning of the knots on the rope has interesting effects on the body with it comes to the exertion of pressure.
But one thing that has to be said with the Shibari rope is that it is really not mean to be used by amateurs. So, if you are a beginner in the BDSM field, it will be nice if you stay away from this particular toy. That is because, with the way it functions, the Shibari rope restricts the flow of blood to various parts of the body. What that means is that if it falls in the wrong hands, it can lead to some really fatal consequences.
Therefore, it is safe for us to conclude that this particular BDSM toy is meant for the real experts and legends of the game. For those who are interested, there are several beneficial publications that give very detailed guidelines on the best ways to make use of the Shibari rope. By the way, talking of ropes, there are some specialized ropes that can stimulate via electric charges and are also used for BDSM.
Ball Gags and Bit Gags
Just as the names imply, these items are to restrain and cause deprivation. It is advisable that you select the one that is made of silicone. There are several advantages of using silicone gags. One is that they are very durable and another is that they do not have pores.
The latter feature is why they are quite easy to clean with just a regular bleach solution. That said, the ball gags are ideal when you want to limit the speaking and even breathing of the person being dominated. They are placed in the mouth and provides a very humiliating spectacle. These gags are ideal when it comes to meting out punishment. The bit gags are good for a situation where the subject needs something to bite into. So, depending on the condition of the sexual activity, you can go for either the ball gag or bit gag.
Blindfolds and Hoods
As you must know by now, BDSM toys are all about causing restriction or imposing one form of deprivation or the other. This is why hoods and blindfolds have become some of the most commonly used BDSM toys. No matter the level you are when it comes to BDSM practices, you can make good use of hoods and blindfolds. One very remarkable thing with sensory deprivation is that they are actually some of the most memorable forms of restriction as far as the effects are concerned. But why is this so?
This is because when you obstruct one or more of the sensory organs, the other ones compensate for this and in doing so, they become even more sensitive in trying to make up for the sense that has been obstructed. That explains why those who have been blindfolded narrate how they are able to taste, feel, hear or even smell in a way that they have never experienced before.
Depriving the senses gives rise to some experiences that are better experienced before one can fully comprehend what it is like. Another thing with sensory deprivation is that you do not really need any fancy tool or equipment – you can achieve the goal with just a simple fabric. In order to add another amazing dimension to the sensory deprivation, block out the sense of hearing and the subject will go gaga.
As for the hoods, they can also vary. They can vary depending on the size, material used or even the brand of the manufacturer or even the way they are used. For example, some hoods restrict your sense of vision, hearing or speech while there are some hoods that can do all these at once. There are also some hoods that are relatively flexible in terms of use so you are able to select which particular sense you wish to deprive.
Some hoods are complete in terms of control and they are able to restrict virtually all the senses. There are some other reasons why the hoods are used. For instance, they are used primarily so as to be able to make the subject anonymous, something that is very important in the BDSM sessions. In a similar way to the blindfold, the wearer is able to feel free with the fantasies without any worries.
Spanking and Impact Tools
Well, another dimension that adds to the excitement in BDSM plays is the introduction of some level of pain. To do this, you need to make use of the spanking and impact tools. But at this point, a note of warning and caution must be sounded.
If you are going to engage in spanking, there are some areas of the body that you need to stay away from so as not to inflict severe harm or cause dangerous complications. These include areas like the neck, head, and joints. Some other areas of the body are not too dangerous but they contain a lot of nerve endings and can be too sensitive for spanking. These include the soles of the feet, armpits, thighs and the palms. These are areas you need to stay away from.
So, what is being talked about here is that whenever you want to spank, commence gradually and then increase the force step by step. You should pay good attention to the subject and they should let you know when they cannot bear the pain anymore and that level you just have to stop.
Another thing that must be noted here is the fact that maintaining good hygiene is paramount. This is because some of these devices can be in touch with blood and other body fluids which can transmit diseases. Therefore, it is important that you ensure all these tools are washed properly during these sessions.
For impact sessions, simple tools can be used. These can be spoons or even mere hands can be used. For those who want to take the notch higher, they can introduce riding crops, paddles, whips or even floggers.
Chastity Devices
If there is any way to really express control over your subject, it is none other than via the control of orgasm. And when it comes to controlling orgasm, there is no better way to do this than to make use of a chastity device. The main thing with these tools is that they stop the wearer from being able to stimulate the private parts. The wearer cannot engage in masturbation or sexual intercourse without the approval of the dominant person who is in charge of the key that can be used to unlock the chastity devices.
When it comes to chastity devices, the ones designed for the males are more prevalent on the market. They can be used for various lengths of duration depending on the sessions needed. That is possible because the man can go to the toilet at any time and get cleaned up. That is facilitated by the presence of the holes on the male chastity devices.
As for the ones that are designed for females, they mostly come in the form of female chastity belts. These belts can, however, be used for short durations. What that means is that there is no way the female can go to the toilet wearing these female chastity belts. It is also not possible for you to be flexible in them or get any kind of genital stimulation done. That is the way they are designed.
As a result, they are used in many cases to control the flow of urine but you need to be aware of the fact that they can have severe medical complications if handled wrongly. What that means is that if these devices are to be used in the control of urination, it must not be done by the amateurs and beginners. When orgasm is to be controlled in the female subjects, you may want to achieve the goal by just tying her up.
Body Harnesses, Chokers, and Collars
If you are familiar with BDSM movies, you must have observed that one of the most frequently used BDSM toys is the collar. Also used as a leash in some cases, the collar is typically worn by the subject who is the submissive person in the whole arrangement. The dominant person makes use of the leash as an instrument of power and control over the subject. The collars can come in the form of leather straps or catchy chokers. They can also be used in outdoor activities.
Another kind that will be discussed in this section is the body harness. As the two that have been mentioned above, the body harness can also be used outdoor too, it can be used alone or alongside other toys that are meant for restraint.
The reason for this is that it is less stressful to make use of straps and body harness hooked to the upper and lower limbs of the subject. There are several brands that make these chokers, collars and body harnesses and for that reason, you are always able to select the ones that meet your needs the most. You are not considered to be a real BDSM enthusiast if you are not seen flaunting the collars, straps, chokers and body harnesses in the public.
